The Female Brain

Every brain begins as a female brain. It only becomes male eight weeks after conception, when excess testosterone shrinks the communications center, reduces the hearing cortex, and makes the part of the brain that processes sex twice as large. Louann Brizendine, M.D. is a pioneering neuropsychiatrist who brings together the latest findings to show how the unique structure of the female brain determines how women think, what they value, how they communicate, and whom they’ll love. Brizendine reveals the neurological explanations behind why...

• A woman uses about 20,000 words per day while a man uses about 7,000
• A woman remembers fights that a man insists never happened
• A teen girl is so obsessed with her looks and talking on the phone
• Thoughts about sex enter a woman’s brain once every couple of days but enter a man’s brain about once every minute
• A woman knows what people are feeling, while a man can’t spot an emotion unless somebody cries or threatens bodily harm
• A woman over 50 is more likely to initiate divorce than a man

Women will come away from this book knowing that they have a lean, mean communicating machine. Men will develop a serious case of brain envy. Get the book at Powells

How to have better orgasms

Work on your pelvic floor muscles

Prepare for multitudes of earth-shattering orgasms by whipping your PC muscles into shape. To know what and where they are, next time you're on the loo, try stopping yourself peeing mid-flow. The muscles you clench up to stop yourself urinating are the PC muscles. The best bit about getting them fit and healthy is that you don't need to don footless tights and haul yourself to the gym – you can exercise them by clenching and unclenching them several times during a day. Spend a couple of weeks 'working out' and you'll find yourself having more, and better, orgasms.

Light a candle for AIDS

For every candle lit, Bristol-Myers Squibb will donate $1 up to $100,000 to the National AIDS fund. You can find more information and light a candle at LiteToUnite.org

Holiday e-cards (and sexy too!)

If you're looking for some free, sexy holiday e-cards, then click no further than our pals at Blissable.com where they've just added some fun, camp, tittilating and TOTALLY free digital greeting-like thingies.

Send a few now and maybe you'll get a date for New Year's eve!

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I'm happy to announce that Ms. Bliss has invited me to contribute to this Diva-lishous blog! I'm so thrilled that I almost peed myself.

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Sexy Turkey Recipe

For those of you with nothing better to do tomorrow, here's a novel way to cook your turkey that you're unlikely to see on the Food Network!

1. Cut out aluminum foil in the shape of a swimsuit.

2. Dress the turkey and roast like you would normally.

3. Serve turkey to family with your favorite side dishes.

4. Have another drink while your conservative Republican uncle Frank does a spit take at the dinner table (when he realizes the turkey looks exactly like the woman in Miami Beach he's been screwing around with all these years).

Happy Thanksgiving!!

Redefining Seduction

Giving women permission to be the pursuer.

"Using the Darwinian claim that it is the females in a species who choose their male mates, Donna Sheehan and Paul Reffell promise that seduction led by women can be passionate, playful, joyous. They advocate relationships initiated on this vision of gender equality as a microcosm of what could become a template for egalitarian partnership throughout society."

—Margaret Mackenzie Ph.D.
Anthropologist

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Orgasms for Peace

SAN FRANCISCO (AP) -- Two peace activists have planned a massive anti-war demonstration for the first day of winter.

But they don't want you marching in the streets. They'd much rather you just stay home.

The Global Orgasm for Peace was conceived by Donna Sheehan, 76, and Paul Reffell, 55, whose immodest goal is for everyone in the world to have an orgasm Dec. 22 while focusing on world peace.

''The orgasm gives out an incredible feeling of peace during it and after it,'' Reffell said Sunday. ''Your mind is like a blank. It's like a meditative state. And mass meditations have been shown to make a change.''

The couple are no strangers to sex and social activism. Sheehan, no relation to anti-war activist Cindy Sheehan, brought together nearly 50 women in 2002 who stripped naked and spelled out the word ''Peace.''

The stunt spawned a mini-movement called Baring Witness that led to similar unclothed demonstrations worldwide.

The couple have studied evolutionary psychology and believe that war is mainly an outgrowth of men trying to impress potential mates, a case of ''my missile is bigger than your missile,'' as Reffell put it.

By promoting what they hope to be a synchronized global orgasm, they hope to get people to channel their sexual energy into something more positive.

The couple said interest appears strong, with 26,000 hits a day to their Web site, www.globalorgasm.org.

''The dream is to have everyone in the world (take part),'' Reffell said. ''And if that means laying down your gun for a few minutes, then hey, all the better.''

Frigid Mel

Two decades after being chosen as People magazine's first sexiest man alive, Mel Gibson now tops a very different kind of list: Film Threat's annual "Frigid 50: The Coldest People in Hollywood."

The independent film Web site on Friday named Gibson No. 1 among the "least-powerful, least-inspiring, least-intriguing people in all of Tinseltown," following the anti-Semitic remarks he made during his arrest on suspicion of drunken driving.

"He apologized, he got sick of apologizing, he refused to apologize anymore, he didn't want to address the issue, he spoke on nationally broadcast news shows, he spoke at synagogues, he met with Jewish Officials," Film Threat's editors wrote. "But in the end, in all his `I'm really not anti-Semitic' posturing, he never bothered to address how irresponsible he was for driving under the influence in the first place. And now he's got a new movie opening, `Apocalypto,' and the question becomes: who cares?"

Gibson, 50, the star of the "Lethal Weapon" movies and director of "The Passion of the Christ," was People's sexiest man alive on the magazine's inaugural list in 1985.

Couldn't have happened to a nicer guy! (LOL) Quite honestly, Gibson's macho persona did nothing for us. His characters were always the self-obsessed, overtly and needlessly violent jerks that the world needs fewer of. And his narcissistic posturing in "What Women Want" made us want to gag.

Sex in the 21st C

November 2006: Turkey… Sedative or Aphrodisiac?

November… a time for eating, drinking, being with family and friends. Sharing and enjoying life. Thinking about the upcoming holidays and what fun toys and gifts you will be buying and hopefully, receiving. Ho, ho, ho!

And let’s not forget about Thanksgiving and the eating frenzy that begins the end of November and continues through the end of the year.

Food… warm, inviting, comforting, satisfying. Sound familiar?

Perhaps there’s more of a relationship between food and sex then you might think… maybe this holiday season, it’s time to put the two together. You wouldn’t be the first, you know!

Food can act as an aphrodisiac on several levels – one, the psychological level (remember “9-1/2 Weeks”?), and two, the physiological level. Some foods may turn us on just by their look, smell, texture and/or taste. Example: oysters, strawberries, bananas. And then there are foods containing certain vitamins, minerals, amino acids, etc., known to trigger the release of chemicals or hormones in our bodies that may affect our sexual appetite or stamina. For example, foods rich in nitric oxide, amino acids, anti-oxidants, zinc and B6 are said to be good “sex foods”… shellfish, veggies, berries, turkey, just to name a few.

Chocolate anyone?

When I think of the upcoming holidays, I think about all that chocolate I will be getting and giving! But besides the great taste, does chocolate have any other redeeming qualities? Apparently so…

From GlobalChefs.com…

“Chocolate contains substances called Phenylethylamine and Serotonin, both of which (put simply), are mood lifting agents found naturally in the human brain. They are released into the nervous system by the brain when we are happy and when we are experiencing feelings of love, passion or lust. This causes rapid mood change, a rise in blood pressure and increasing heart rate, inducing those feelings of well being, bordering on euphoria usually associated with being in love.

Eating chocolate also releases Phenylethylamine and Serotonin into the system producing those same euphoric effects, plus it can give a substantial energy boost thus increasing stamina (at the critical moment?), so it's probably these effects which gave rise to chocolate’s reputation as an aphrodisiac.”

(For the entire article, go to: Chocolate An Aphrodisiac?)

Sounds promising! Sex, food, chocolate, sex! The possibilities are endless!

There are numerous books, as well as online articles, on food and sex. Searching the web, I found quite a few, including, “The Sex Life of Food” by Bunny Crumpacker, “Great Food, Great Sex” by Robert Fried, Ph.D. and Lynn Edlen-Nezin, Ph.D., “Foods for Fabulous Sex” by Dr. Morton Walker. And I’m sure there are many others. Interesting reading and yummy recipes too!

So what will be on your Thanksgiving Day menu? Turkey, berries, chocolate… sex?

This will be my last column for 2006. How can I think about sex when I’m busy cooking turkey and watching “It’s A Wonderful Life” or “Bells of St Mary”? Okay, I CAN think about sex. I’m just too crazed to sit down and write about it!

Great Food, Great Sex

What's for dinner? Here's some food for thought. You may be able to eat your way to better sex! Now there is a new book in stores that promises recipes that are good for your heart, health and sex life.

Most people would rather have a good night sleep than sex.

According to a recent study, about 70 million Americans have sexual function issues, but what's not happening in the bedroom may be what’s cooking in the kitchen.

”Most Americans plates are overloaded… it makes you feel like curling up and going to sleep… everything that you are eating that insults your cardiovascular system insults your cardio-sexual system,” said Lynn Elden-Nezin, PhD, whom co-authored Great Food, Great Sex.

So if you're looking to get lucky, a change in diet may be just what you need to light up your libido.

The recipe for great sex, according to this new page turner, Great Food, Great Sex, good nutrition and foods packed with nitric oxide like beans and berries will put the spice back in your sex life.

Beans -- I had no idea beans and sex life could be connected,” food lover Rosalinda Matthew said.

Food-lovers consider Great Food, Great Sex the ultimate Viagra-alternative diet, designed to fire up sexual vitality in both men and women.

“It's not a fad diet.”

“These are not aphrodisiacs, there are sexual functional foods… all the recipes are scientifically validated.”

The book boasts, give the heart-healthy recipes just three weeks and you'll not only lose weight and lower cholesterol, but ultimately feel more frisky.

“What this diet does is help keep the arteries cleared out.”

The science seems simple -- to enhance sexual performance, the body needs to promote blood flow to the sexual organs. So a diet high in complex carbohydrates, antioxidants and fruits and vegetables will speed up a sluggish sex drive.

“After one week I already see something ... It's very simple, very easy, inexpensive and not that tine consuming.”

With recipes like the "Frisky Veggie Fritatta" couples learn cooking and eating can actually be foreplay.

“The diet is actually really good foreplay... Use making a meal a prelude to intimacy.”

Co-author Lynn Edlen-Nezin says feeding your partner strawberries is not only sexy, but gets the blood pumping to all the right places.

“Feed your partner a strawberry, it's a big turn on,” Elden-Nezin said. “But I've also given that person a big dose of antioxidants and are really good about preserving the health of arteries.”

To increase your chance of after-dinner action, Great Food, Great Sex prescribes dining on colorful foods.

“The brightness signifies a high concentration is nutrients.”

There's also some psychology behind making a new grocery list.

“You can be good in the kitchen and good elsewhere in the house.”

If you can shake it up in the kitchen, perhaps you can stir it up in the bedroom.

The authors insist sex is also a form of exercise and can burn up to 400 calories!

Earth Girls are Easy

From Slate's Human Nature columns:

Evolution favors female promiscuity. In a study of mouse-like marsupials, "survival of babies with promiscuous mothers was almost three times as high as those in the monogamous group." Key reasons: 1) "The sperm of some males were far more successful than others." 2) "Babies fathered by these males were twice as likely to survive." Takeaway for women: "Polyandry improves female lifetime fitness." Takeaway for men: "Males with more competitive ejaculates sire more viable offspring." Fine print: "Males usually died after a short and intense single mating season due to exhaustion and aggressive encounters with other males." Did we mention that female promiscuity promotes big testicles and small brains in males?

In other words...we like 'em Big and Stupid!

LOL! That transported me right back to the '80s and the song from the cult movie "Earth Girls are Easy" with comedian Julie Brown. I always assumed she was singing about muscles, but maybe she meant balls!

Read more on human nature from at Slate.com

Freedom First

The founders of our nation believed that all Americans should have the right to worship according to their own beliefs, or not to worship at all. So strong was their commitment to religious freedom that they enshrined it in the first sentence of the Bill of Rights.

"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion or prohibiting the free exercise thereof..."

This constitutional guarantee is often known as the "first freedom."

Religion is a deeply personal matter. Americans must be free to practice their religion without coercion. Government exists to provide for the general well-being of all people, and its workings must be independent of specific religious doctrines. Simply put, there must be a separation of church and state.

If we do not stand together as a nation, we stand to lose this fundamental freedom.

Sign the online petition

New York Plans to Make Gender Personal Choice

Separating anatomy from what it means to be a man or a woman, New York City is moving forward with a plan to let people alter the sex on their birth certificate even if they have not had sex-change surgery.

Under the rule being considered by the city’s Board of Health, which is likely to be adopted soon, people born in the city would be able to change the documented sex on their birth certificates by providing affidavits from a doctor and a mental health professional laying out why their patients should be considered members of the opposite sex, and asserting that their proposed change would be permanent.

Applicants would have to have changed their name and shown that they had lived in their adopted gender for at least two years, but there would be no explicit medical requirements.

“Surgery versus nonsurgery can be arbitrary,” said Dr. Thomas R. Frieden, the city’s health commissioner. “Somebody with a beard may have had breast-implant surgery. It’s the permanence of the transition that matters most.”

If approved, the new rule would put New York at the forefront of efforts to redefine gender. A handful of states do not require surgery for such birth certificate changes, but in some of those cases patients are still not allowed to make the change without showing a physiological shift to the opposite gender.

Read the fill article on NY Times

Groundbreaking study on sexuality

A groundbreaking study, which provides the first ever comprehensive analysis of sexual behaviour around the world, is published in the Lancet, as part of a major series on sexual and reproductive health.

The paper analyses data from 59 countries worldwide to answer questions such as when people start to have sex, how many sexual partners they have and whether they practise safer sex. The authors explore what the patterns and trends mean for sexual health and they review the literature on preventive approaches to improve sexual health status.

The paper contains a number of unexpected findings. In an age in which scare-stories about underage sex and promiscuity abound, there has in fact been no universal trend towards earlier sexual intercourse.

Professor Kaye Wellings of the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine, who led the team carrying out the study, comments: "The huge regional diversity in sexual behaviour shows how strong social influences on behaviour are. No general approach to sexual health promotion will work everywhere, and no single component intervention will work anywhere. We need to know not only whether interventions work, but why and how they do so in particular social contexts."

"The selection of public health messages needs to be guided by epidemiological evidence rather than by myths and moral stances. The greatest challenge to sexual health promotion in almost all countries comes from opposition from conservative forces to harm reduction strategies. Governments tend to shy away from supporting interventions other than those with orthodox approaches. Sexuality is an essential part of human nature and its expression needs to be affirmed rather than denied if public health messages are to be heeded."

Read the full article here

Another Gay Republican

Make that a straight Republican who likes gay sex. And not just any Republican. This time it's Ted Haggard, prominent social conservative and president of the 30-million member National Association of Evangelicals who has just resigned amidst accusations that he had a 3-year sexual relationship with a male prostitute. Lordy, Lordy! The hi-jinx these social conservatives get up to when they think no-one is looking! Which begs the question...as a Pastor and Evangelical Christian, doesn't he also have to believe that God was looking? That God knew he was cavorting around with a self-avowed gay hooker? And since he's made a career out of preaching the Gospel on the supposed evils of homosexuality, doesn't that mean he knew God would condemn him to Hell, and yet he did it anyway? Isn't he supposed to be setting an example to his own bigoted flock (as in practice what you preach)? Or is he actually deep-down fully aware of what the rest of us already know. That God or whatever deity you profess to worship, made all of us exactly the way we are, and doesn't give a rat's ass who we boink.

Nathaniel Frank over at Huffington Post says this:

The Republican Party appears to be chock full of people who make a life of preaching against the very vices they can't shake. Why?

For answers to the puzzles that seem to infest the conservative worldview, we might dust off our old Freud texts. From the father of psychoanalysis, we learn the concept of "reaction formation" which describes how we react to our own unacceptable impulses. Reaction formation is a classic "defense mechanism"-an unconscious behavior designed to ward off uncomfortable feelings. Sometimes we react to our discomfort with ourselves in harmless ways, such as when a man cheats on his wife and brings her flowers to ease his guilt. Other times, the reactions can be punitive-we judge and condemn others who exhibit the very impulses that we, ourselves, cannot control. This is frequently the case when dealing with lust or greed. "Sooner or later," writes Michael Warner, a Professor of English at Rutgers and a leading theorist of sexuality and politics, "we all lose control over our sex life. As a result, we try to control someone else's sex life."

I'm always highly suspicious of people who obsess over the sexual behaviour of others. What they don't seem to realize it they are only drawing more attention to themselves and sooner or later the truth will out. Spectacularly and flamboyantly out in Mr. Haggard's case. Nice lei Ted.

Sex Toy of the Week

Technology has finally developed the perfect instrument for the sexually adveturous! This ultra-discreet Venus Butterfly Vibrator is controlled by a tiny remote, allowing you (or someone else) to turn up the vibrations at a moment's notice. Imagine you're in your favorite romantic restaurant waiting for dessert and - BZZZZZZ - a little primer for the night ahead. Or you're having cocktails in a sexy lounge and - BZZZZZZ - your Martini just got an extra jolt!

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The government wants to control your sex life.

From ABC NEWS:

If you're single and in your 20s, the federal government wants you to steer clear of sex.

That's the new guidance for states under the Department of Health and Human Services' $50 million Abstinence Education Program. HHS officials say it's not a requirement — just another option for states to combat what they call an alarming rise in out-of-wedlock births.

A record 1.5 million babies were born to single mothers in 2004, according to the National Center for Health Statistics. More than half of them were born to women in their early 20s.

Critics of the guidelines, such as James Wagoner, president of a group whose top goal is a "society that views sexuality as normal and healthy," say such statistics illustrate that most people in their 20s are already having sex.

Wagoner's group, Advocates for Youth, argues that it's futile to try to sell 20-somethings on chastity. He says birth control is a smarter way to prevent pregnancies.

"This is a clear signal that they're using these resources — taxpayer dollars — to promote an ideological agenda," Wagoner says. "It has nothing to do with public health."

So that's what we get from these wannabe theocrats. Hurricanes may kill us, deficits may soar, endless lives may be lost fighting the "evildoers" and their hidden WMDs, and back at home they want a society of virgins and they'll use the government to try to enforce it. So if you're 18, you can go off and fight and die for them, but don't even THINK about using that pecker till you're 20! Like I've said before. VOTE THEM OUT!